Dear Abby: In-laws thrive on crossing boundaries
Dear Abby My husband and I are celebrating our second anniversary For the greater part part we re very happy He s the best friend I ve ever had The predicament is his family They re wonderful people who have welcomed me with open arms But they are also extremely clingy and lack common boundaries We in recent times moved to a larger home that s closer to them but farther from my family Now that we live closer they constantly pop in unannounced for visits at inconvenient times such as while I m getting dinner plated up His mother has been reported numerous times that we are private people and don t like a lot of company but she still keeps doing the same thing She s also trying to throw parties at our house and talking about putting in a pool even though we have described her no repeatedly And Abby when one family member shows up you can almost guarantee that two or three more will show up soon after When we moved in my family came to see the house They had been here no more than five minutes when his entire family aunts cousins everyone displayed up and took over Consequently my family didn t really get to visit or even see the house because things got too chaotic Please help Losing It in Alabama Dear Losing It When you married into your husband s family they welcomed you as one of their own If I read your letter correctly they view you as a family member and your family as blended into their own Because you need more privacy and boundaries than you have been able to establish you may need your husband to help you get the message across in a way they can accept without becoming offended Dear Abby I have been with my girlfriend for years We have never married for various reasons She is in her s and I am years younger Our sex life isn t so good anymore As a matter of fact it is gone What can I do as a younger man to make her feel special again How can I light her fire We still sleep in the same room but that s about it I am not ugly overweight or unappealing Is there any hope for at least a slight increase in sex All of my parts are working so that s not the obstacle I don t want to cheat and there are too multiple diseases I could catch out there Please advise Ready and Willing in Arizona Dear Ready It s time for you and your lady friend to have a calm honest conversation about your lack of a sex life When you do ask her if sex causes her pain because that may be the reason for her lack of interest If that s the episode her gynecologist can suggest remedies for fixing the matter If her reason is that she s only no longer interested she should discuss it with her healthcare provider and ask for a referral to an endocrinologist who may be able to help her rebalance her hormones Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
